Bringing Fulfillment Closer
Your life’s purpose is about finding fulfillment which is where your energy should be directed. When you feel fulfilled psychologists would say you are thriving. But even in the most developed prosperous societies only about one-third of people are thriving.
The reasons for this are centered on stress, inner states like depression and anxiety, feeling insecure, worrying about the future, and so on. The challenge is to improve the condition of your mental and psychological energy because that’s how you can improve your inner quality of your life.
Fulfillment is a daily goal and a life-long goal at the same time. In the field of positive psychology it’s been found that the happiest lives are constructed from happy days. How do we achieve this in the face of life’s difficulties and wounds lingering from the past?
The first issue is one of healing. Whether it’s a physical trauma, emotional, mental or spiritual, everyone has had some sort of experience that could benefit from healing attention. No one is free from the need to heal and becoming your own healer is always available to you.
All positive experiences have the potential to heal. From the concept of “laughter is the best medicine” to meditation and other inner practices. By design the body-mind possesses the natural ability to return to a healthy balanced state. This implies that we need to get out of the way and let the healing response do its work.
For me, my life’s difficulties and wounds that lingered from the past was my addiction to alcohol. How do I heal from my alcoholism? How can I call my alcoholism a “positive” experience?
Well today I can my my disease a positive experience. I can call myself a grateful alcoholic. For had I not been able to experience the negativity that goes along with any addiction like the lying, cheating, stealing, hiding, selling your soul and much more to get that next high which you cannot go one day without, I would not have experienced the positive I have today in my life in recovery.
And as far as the concept of “laughter is the best medicine”, if you’ve ever been in an AA meeting and heard the laughter from someone’s horrific alcoholic “war story”, you will realize that this laughter is healing. We learn to love ourselves for who and what we are. We learn to accept ourselves and realize that we are, indeed, gifts on this planet. We can share our experience, strength and hope with others who enter our bubbles and who are experiencing life difficulties of their own.
This laughter, this meeting, this fellowship, this “getting out of the way” is all foreign to a newcomer in Alcoholics Anonymous or any of the other fantastic support groups available to us. These fellowships provide a toolbox for healing, and living, in their 12 Steps.
We find like-minded people who show us that our problems are not unique. We no longer have to live in guilt and shame. We get comfortable enough to share our stories, our lives, our deepest secrets, with one we trust, who holds our confidence, and expects nothing in return but our well-being.
We are introduced to an idea of creating a “God of Our Own Understanding”, a “Power Greater Than Ourselves”, to whom we can eventually turn our will and our lives over to. It all sounded pretty suspicious and puzzling to me, too, but what did I have to lose? I already loathed myself, couldn’t go a day without drinking, and felt I was a waste of space on the planet.
So when we “get out of the way and let the healing response do its work”, we turn our difficulties and wounds over to our new God (which, by the way, could be a rock, or a doorknob, or the fellowship or anything your little heart conjures up). We learn that living from our minds and egos no longer serve us and we start living from our hearts. We learn to trust and have faith that everything is perfect at this moment, and has been all along; we just didn’t know it.
Good sleep and reduced stress are two major ways to let the healing response work as it was intended to. However, the healing most people need centers on meaning and purpose. Water brings life to a garden when you direct it at each plant. But water sprayed aimlessly in the air has no purpose and, therefore, brings little benefit.
The same is true of scattered aimless energy in you life. We don’t need to do much to give our energy a direction. All you need is a simple heart-felt intention to be open and aware. That means you meet the present moment ready to be of the greatest service to those around you. The boundless power and intelligence of creation will do the rest.
When you are awake to the present moment, you will be guided to give love and receive love as well. You will find ways to be of service to others and to make contributions that lead to a sense of accomplishment. This gentle intention has tremendous power because your intention naturally increases and supports those positive experiences.
In my active addiction I didn’t have good sleep. It seems like forever and a day I drank myself into a pass-out state and when I awoke, I came to. My life was full of stress. I worried more about what you thought of me than about what I thought of me. Remember, I loathed and actually hated myself.
I lived in fear of my appearances and behaviors. I couldn’t trust myself when I drank. So I became a closet drinker. But the disease many times took me out in the real world where I met you, but don’t remember you, because I was in a black-out.
In my active addiction I had no religion nor spirituality. I just had me and my brain and neither could stop me from drinking everyday. I definitely had no purpose and oftentimes wondered why I was here.
Today I am so grateful I didn’t come to on that day when I missed my shift at work. I am so grateful of the guilt and shame of what I thought I allowed myself become. I am so grateful of not knowing if I had called work because I was in a black-out. I am so grateful of the humiliation I felt not being able to ask my family what I had done, what I had said, who, if anyone, I had spoken to.
Wow, I don’t have to live that way today. Today I have a choice of whether or not I want to put a drink in me. I didn’t have that choice before. And today, just for today, I choose this life in recovery where I have fulfillment, I have purpose, and I have a love for myself that I could never have imagined in my wildest dreams.
Thank you for being here with me today. My hope is that one person who reads this gets a glimpse of light at the end of the tunnel. My hope is that one person realizes he is not alone and can ask for help. My hope is that one person can shed the guilt and shame and learn to love himself for who and what he is…a unique gift that no one else on this planet is!
With warmest aloha,
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